Having a ghost in your home is never good for you. Here’s how to get rid of a ghost, once and for all…
How many times have you been out with friends and the topic of conversation turns to the ghostly realm? Who doesn’t love to share these morbidly fascinating stories and experiences?
There’s often one person whose experience (or whose friend’s experience!) is that they had a ghost in their house, but it was a good ghost and they all learned to co-exist.
Perhaps this is your story, or the story of someone close to you.
I have some strong ideas on this topic that are not very popular, I’m afraid, even amongst other people who do this kind of work, but I’d ask you to hear me out.
There is no such thing as a good ghost
Seriously. No ghost is a good ghost. All ghosts are problematic. Even cute friendly Casper. Don’t you remember how Casper had no friends? There was a reason for that, that I’ll explain in a bit.
At this point, you may be thinking, “But Kim, what about the time that my aunt so-and-so appeared to me to warn me about an impending disaster?”
Excellent point. Chances are, your aunt came to you as a spirit, not a ghost.
So, before we go further, allow me to differentiate ghosts and spirits.
Sometimes we use these terms interchangeably, and I am guilty of this, but they are very different things.
A ghost is an earth-bound entity. A person who died, but never crossed over. For whatever reason, good or bad, intentional or not, they stayed here.
A spirit refers to those otherworldly beings who help us. Ancestors, spirit guides, teachers. They live in the Otherworld. They only come when called, or when needed. There are good spirits all around us, but we are not always aware of them.
Imagine this: You’re chilling on the couch one night and see something. You KNOW it’s spiritual in nature, but how do you know if it’s a ghost vs. a spirit?
This list is just the tip of the iceberg, but it provides a few points of reference:
The most important thing is how does it make you feel?
Sprits who are there to help you don’t try to scare you. They don’t hang out above you when you wake up, they don’t startle you when you’re making a cup of tea, they don’t appear in your hallway and run at you. Ever.
Ghosts who do display this type of behavior are not your ally. They are not your long-deceased grandfather you never met, nor the spirit of a cherished friend since passed.
It is easy to hope that this is the case. To look past how they make you feel because of that hope, but the fact of the matter is that, there can be no space in your life, or your home, for this type of entity.
It doesn’t matter if it’s the ghost of a sweet little boy or an elegant old lady. It doesn’t matter if the ghost has been relatively unintrusive (although if this were the case, you wouldn’t know it was there in the first place.) They need to go. Full stop.
Why I’m so Hard-Nosed About This
Ghosts are attracted to our energy and will deplete it. Good ghosts, bad ghosts, known, unknown, caring, uncaring, it doesn’t matter. Ghosts deplete our energy.
Having depleted energy sucks. You get depressed, sick, life feels chaotic, you barely hang on from one day to the next, you can’t sleep, you may turn to addiction to cope, you are exhausted.
Again, I’m referring to ALL ghosts. Even the well-meaning ones. Even the ones we believe we once knew. You are like a candle in the dark, and they covet your light.
How To Get Rid Of A Ghost, Friendly Or Otherwise
See a shaman
If you are frightened, seek the help of a professional.
There are shamans around Toronto and just outside the city who can do this kind of work for you. You would likely want them to come to your house to clear it out, and they may do energy work with you as well.
Do be aware that not all healers do both. For example, I will work on your personally, but I don’t do house-clearings. It’s just not a gift I’ve been given at this time.
See a Catholic priest
Another option is to see a Catholic priest and talk about what’s going on.
The Church gets a bad rap these days, but Catholic priests in particular are well-trained to deal with this kind of thing.
I’ve known a number of people who only experienced relief from troublesome ghosts when they went to the Catholic church.
Never underestimate the power of prayer or the wisdom of those who dedicate their lives to serving God.
Consider your own health
Being healthy mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually is the best way to ward off troublesome ghosts. This means wading through the muck of our issues to bring about our own healing.
When we heal, we are stronger mentally and emotionally. This leads to better physical health and, ultimately spiritual health.
Get out and take a walk. Eat clean. Open the curtains. Start seeing your therapist again. Quit drinking. Honour yourself and your relationships. Step into the light.
The healthier we are, the less vulnerable we are to ghostly activity of any kind. Our boundaries become more solid, our energy stronger. Ghosts don’t even try.
If you’re not overly frightened, feast it
This is where you honour the ghost by preparing some food and setting that food aside (creating a spirit plate.) Then you raise that plate and say ‘we honour you and we ask that you depart to the spirit world with our blessing’ or something along those lines.
It’s respectful, it acknowledges, and it generally won’t stir up shit with a troublesome ghost. This is also a lovely solution if you’re convinced your ghost is a well-meaning if not misplaced entity.
Always prepare the spirit plate first and feast the ghost before you eat yourself. Then take that spirit food (DO NOT EAT IT!) and leave it outside.
A note: Do not call the spirit in advance, do not go into a trance, this is not some dramatic séance! Simply make some food, make a spirit plate, lift it up and honour the ghost, then put it outside, and continue on with your day or evening. Easy peasy.
If you’re not overly frightened, call it out
Some ghosts love to exist in the shadows. So, if you see it, call it out. Literally say “I see you,” and don’t give it your fear. Don’t give it anything! Do this for a few weeks or months and see what happens.
A caveat: I’ve read in a few similar blogs to sass the ghost and to say things like “I see you! Is that the best you can do?” I want to be really clear that my advice is to call the ghost out, but not to provoke it into a fight unless you’re trained to do that kind of work. Please don’t do that. Yes, it *may* work, but it may also make it worse, and honestly, you have other options.
If your ghost won’t leave
Some ghosts are too strong to deal with alone and it can cause more trouble. If your situation intensifies or you find yourself getting sick a lot, don’t be a hero, it’s time to put out the bat signal and get help. Find a shaman to help or go to the church.
If you’re not sure where to start, find your most open-minded friend, and have a conversation about what is happening. That will start the chain of getting you in touch with someone trained to help you. And yes, there are times when Google is your most open-minded friend (what a world we live in!) If all else fails, just go to your closest catholic church – doesn’t matter your creed – and ASK.
But whatever tactic you choose, you must never let a ghost cohabitate with you, for no matter how friendly you think it is, that ghost is surviving off your energy, at your expense.
Nothing personal to the ghost, but they need to leave, because in my view, the only person who should have access to your energy, health and vitality is YOU. Your health is more important than the needs of a ghost, friendly or otherwise, and it must be protected.